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Carol Perkins: Still shocked by personal attacks

'Even though one kid might call another kid a liar, a teacher will immediately say, That's not nice. Someone needs to tell politicians that's not nice.
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By Carol Perkins

The worst two things to call a person are "liar" and "fool." At least, that is what my parents taught me growing up. Evidently, politicians didn't get the same "raising" that I did. Does it bother anyone else to hear potential presidents call each other LIARS? Those were fighting words in my territory.

When I was in school, I knew kids who lied, but it was usually to get out of trouble. They would lie about homework, lunch money, bears in the woods behind the clapboard school houses, or about what their fathers could do. "My dad is so strong he can...." However, most of these kids outgrew their fabrications. In high school, some boys lied about cheating on their girlfriends while a few girls lied about other girls and started trouble. Lying leads to big trouble.

Adults tell fibs to get themselves out of trouble, too. They lie about money (I don't know what happened to it), work (I wasn't late), projects that don't get finished (I had to take Grandma to the hospital), their whereabouts (I was home all night), or about not getting messages ( "I didn't get the text.") Big lies are often about cheating, drinking, and roaming-the topics of good country songs. Even though one kid might call another kid a liar, a teacher will immediately say, "That's "not nice." Someone needs to tell politicians "that's not nice."

As for calling someone a "fool," my grandfather Reece declared that this was the worst thing to say to a person, so none of us, even down to the grandchildren, ever called anyone a "fool." I might say, "That is a foolish thing to do." I might say, "I felt like a fool," but I would never look at another person and say, in sincerity, "You're a fool." I might get whipped!

Using the word, "liar" seems to have become politically correct. Classy people would never call another person a "liar." They might think it, but as I often said to my grandchildren, "Words are like daggers; they can cut deeply." I don't even allow them to dispute the others' word. "That's not right!" I've heard one say to the other or, "No, that's not how it was." They don't get by with that when I'm in the house!

What we hear, over and over, can become so embedded in our psyche that we are no longer shocked when we hear it. I am not at that point, and I hope you aren't either. --Carol Perkins

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