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It's Just Me Again No. 341, Knock Knock
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by Chuck Hinman

Several months after Connie passed away in 2002 I was taking a nap in my recliner here at Tallgrass Estates when there was a knock on my door. It was three smiling women from Xi Theta Sorority holding a large decorated flower-pot! I had been alerted they were coming but I didn't know when. I eyeballed the flower-pot and noticed it was decorated in a Halloween motif.

I said, "You're the ladies who were always doing nice things for my dear wife over the years - is that correct?" They smiled and said in unison, "That is correct!"

Then the lady with the flower pot handed it to me and said, "we thought you might like some tricks or treats - homemade cookies brought to your door."

Before she finished speaking, tears began to well up in my eyes. As I grow older, I notice that I cry easier and it embarrasses me but frankly I don't care if I don't get over that flaw in my emotions. It's a genetic "problem" inherited from my Dad's side of the house.

As I slowly uncovered the goodies in this decorated large flowerpot, it seemed incongruous that three women that I barely knew chose me to be the recipient of their Sunday afternoon random act of kindness. Why me? They could have been out on the golf course or with their families at the lake.

Then I recounted in detail their previous acts of kindness, different women, but the same sorority, Xi Theta, made up of Bartlesville business women. They had seen and were aware of my wife Connie's long-time bout with Alzheimer's disease and knew of the long tedious hours spent by me caring for her and just wanted to bring some sunshine into our lives. And that they did, BIG TIME, not once but several times.

But then the thought struck me, but that was then, Connie is gone, why are you doing this for me. Do you do it for other men? I believe they said "No" without explanation.

Then I got it! When people are doing random acts of kindness -- you do wrong in trying to analyze their motivation. The better course is to thank them graciously and then resolve to perform acts of unexpected kindness of your own doing.

Thank you -- wonderful women of Xi Theta for demonstrating a remarkable way of spending a Sunday afternoon. Is it any wonder that Bartlesville, Oklahoma consistently ranks as one of the top small cities in the United States in which to live!

The cookies and other goodies were wonderful! -Chuck Hinman

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