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By Carol Perkins

In the last five months, Guy has done a lot of building. A bookcase, two workbenches, and a half a dozen flower boxes. He builds and I paint. Busy hands keep idle minds from drifting to the dark side and developing the "poor me" attitude.

Poor me, I can't see my children or grandchildren. Setting up Facetime takes an act of Congress. Poor me, I can't go to stores, even though sometimes I think, by the number of cars in the parking lots, that I'm the only one not going. Poor me, I can't visit my friends, which has been an important part of my life. Poor me, I can't eat out without increasing my chances. Poor me, I can't travel. Poor me, I can't go to the movies or go to a play. That "poor me" attitude is dangerous and selfish, so I kick myself for being so whiney.

Back in July, I had a future project planned with an older cousin in Tennessee and she was ready to roll, setting up a meeting with a third person.

When I said I wasn't ready to mingle, she tried to minimize my concerns by saying she had been all over the country. My luck might not be as good as hers. I might spin the wheel and land on black when I had bet on red.

When I'm looking for things to do for my mental health, according to Guy, they usually include him. My next plan is to haul off junk, donate, rearrange, or box up the hundreds of items in the basement, which is like a storage building. Every piece of furniture we have discarded over the years has gone to the basement. Every knickknack went to the basement. When in doubt, "Take it to the basement." Only now am I getting up the nerve to tackle it.

I'm not totally shut in. Susan and I do our radio show on 99.1 the Hoss on Tuesday at ten, but we distance. I help with the Barn Lot Auction on Thursday night, but we distance as best we can. Even doing that makes me a little nervous. However, I can't quit life. Poor me!

Carol's most recent book, based on a true story, The Case of the Missing Ring, is available through Amazon, both paperback and ebook. You can contact her at

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