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By Carol Perkins

My class reunion is coming up in a few weeks. I hesitate to mention how many years because it is hard to believe. Fifty-five. I was a mere girl (a skinny one at that), who had no clue what she wanted to be, where she wanted to live, and only a hint of whom she might marry. This girl only knew that she was having the time of her life and didn't want it to end.

In thinking about past reunions, the first is usually the tenth and the focus often is who looks the youngest, been most "successful," who had the most children-in other words a contest of a sort. At every "first" reunion it is only natural to look for changes. Giving the prize to the one who has "changed the most" might not be a compliment! Giving a prize to the youngest looking one is a license to hurt someone's feelings. I learned this one year when I got no votes; not even Guy's! The first reunion requires rapid weight loss and a new outfit.

The second reunion is often the twenty-fifth and takes on a different tone.

Classmates have been in full swing with their children and most, being the proud parents they are, prefer talking about them and their accomplishments from being a doctor, a lawyer, a veterinarian, or another the head of a corporation. Seldom does one say, "My daughter teaches" or "My son works in a factory in Glasgow." The truth is that no one is overly interested in other people's kids unless they are living in an igloo in the Artic! The second reunion requires rapid weight loss and a new outfit.

The third leg of the reunion (around forty years) is when children are married or getting married and how successful they are and how successful their future spouses are, where they will live, what college they graduated from, and how the "wedding plans" are killing the parents. Others have grandchildren already with pictures that quickly come out of hip pockets and purses. Graduates are at the retirement stage. No longer are awards given for the youngest looking. The third reunion requires rapid weight loss and a new outfit.

The fourth leg (50 years or more) is more about who has died, how it happened and who will be next. A table of memorials makes classmates realize they could be next on that table. They share their latest "knee or hip" surgeries-most have had one or both replaced by now. Much talk is about what they once could do but can't anymore, and how they have lost their energy! No longer are they looking at who looks the youngest, but more toward who has hair, a memory, few wrinkles, and can walk without a limp. No one cares about their weight nor a new outfit.

Honestly, classmates at this stage seem to be happier than ever to be together. They realize how much they mean to each other. I love my classmates and we don't have to impress each other. Life has made an impression. (There were only forty-nine in my class and twelve of them are gone.)

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