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I Witnessed a Story of Love

Writer’s Note: At the request of Bobby Moore and his family, I am sharing this narrative and photograph. This story was never meant to be seen by anyone. It was written solely for my own healing and to digest the very poignant moment I had just experienced. As I watched Bobby with his wife, I knew I was privileged to share a moment that conveyed volumes of time. As a photojournalist, I know photographs such as this (below the story) capture verbs. It is a window into the event; a bearing witness, if you will. The Moore family have hope that publishing this piece will grant healing to others. - April Shepperd

By April Yurcevic Shepperd

Today, I witnessed a story of love. Not the type of love shared by young people who are half full of passion, topped off with hormones. It was not the type of dewy love experienced by newlyweds who are enthralled with the idea of exclusive devotion and the happily ever after.

In such a world as ours, where vows are broken as quickly as the downing of a gavel, what I saw today was a rarity, a diamond exquisite in design. Today I saw a man, a broken man, standing vigil over his most prized possession. Here was love personified.

When he walked into the room his steps were faulty, but his determination was undaunted. His eyes were fixed upon his destination at the front of the room. A steel grey casket sat under the colored lights. Half of its lid was propped open; the closed half held a spray of vivid, mix-matched flowers adorned with ribbons which read the words "wife" and "mother." Upon approaching and without pause, he leaned down and kissed her painted lips, his frail body trembling to keep upright.


So gentle and soft came his words to her. Surely these words were spoken innumerable times, but this time it was shrouded in finality.

"I know you can't hear me," he whispered. "But, I love you." And his tears fell.

Family visitation was not scheduled for another hour or so, but he had come early. He wouldn't squander these last few hours. For over 60 years she had been by his side, but it still wasn't enough. Not near enough.

So, he pulled up a chair and they sat.

A cane on his right side, his deceased wife on his left, he sat sidled up to the casket for nearly an hour. He rubbed her arms and patted her hands. It was if he was comforting her, but the truth was, he was comforting himself.

It didn't seem to bother him that her skin was cold, her body stiff and rigid; nor did it bother him that she didn't respond to the words he whispered. Strange as it seemed, this could have been a normal scene from any given evening within their home. Except for the plethora of lavish flora and small gifts sent by sympathetic friends, this scenario seemed completely normal.

When family began to trickle in, he was still sitting there, holding her hand, stroking her hair.

"She looks good, doesn't she?" he asked when his children approached. Everyone agreed. And they cried.

For nearly five hours he stayed nearby, exhausted, spent, until his body demanded he retire and his mind pleaded for respite.

This man, this devoted man, had shown more grace in his time of grief than many do in times of plenty. I stood by in awe, watching faithfulness on display. Never had I seen a man so broken, robbed of his happiness by the curse of death. I wondered as I watched him, what would he do tomorrow and the day after that? Today was the easy part.

Today she was still here, lying beside him, able to be touched or seen or kissed. Tomorrow, after she is laid deep in the ground, and he returns to their home, what then? Her things will still be there - the smell of her skin, scribbled grocery lists, her favorite chair, leftovers in the fridge, their bed. Their bed. How does one sleep alone after 59 years of lying next to your best friend? I can't imagine ever sleeping again.

Today, I witnessed a story of love. And I shall witness it again tomorrow when the story finally ends, and the stage is empty, and the lights go dark.

For Bobby, and all that he is.


This story was posted on 2018-01-31 09:01:25
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Bobby Moore says farewell to his precious Jerry



2018-01-31 - Columbia, KY - Photo by April Yurcevic Shepperd.
This is a picture of the deepest grief. It is shared by the family and friend of Jerry Elaine Lawless Moore who passed away earlier this month in hopes it may help someone in a time of loss. A quote from the story follows below and clicking 'read more' goes to the complete story. - LW
"For over 60 years she had been by his side, but it still wasn't enough. So, he pulled up a chair and they sat. A cane on his right side, his deceased wife on his left, he sat sidled up to the casket for nearly an hour. He rubbed her arms and patted her hands. It was if he was comforting her, but the truth was, he was comforting himself." - April Yurcevic Shepperd

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