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Carol Perkins: Metcalfe Countians share grief

A larger world grieves with Adair County. We are not alone, Carol Perkins says in this column.
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By Carol Perkins

The deaths of the young girls in Adair County stunned South Central Kentucky.

How can this be? How can these young girls, out for a fun afternoon, not return home?

When I was in the eighth grade, a classmate was riding with a group of adults and did not return home that night. The car ran off the road and he was killed.

That has been a lifetime ago, but I can remember the emotion of my classmates, the nightmares that followed, the funeral home, and the funeral as if it were yesterday.

When classmates lose one of their own, they never forget it. I didn't share my fears or my heartbreak with anyone.

There was no counselor to talk to us, and our parents didn't realize we needed to talk about it. Death was not discussed. Emotions were seldom shared or shown publicly back then. I did my grieving in bed late at night staring at the ceiling.

Students will never forget what has happened to their classmates. Just as I will never forget Sammy from my experience 57 years ago, they will relive this tragedy as I did.

Of course, they will share in their memories, but at each class reunion in the future, they will talk about these lost lives and what might have been. The families will not want their lives forgotten.

All the community can do, it seems, is grieve together and don't assume your young children are handling it well; talk to them and let them grieve openly. We in Metcalfe County send your community our prayers. - Carol Perkins

This story was posted on 2016-11-06 03:50:32
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