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Carol Perkins: A patience testing incident on Brooks Road @ I-65

When gentlemen weren't gentlemen, Carol relates a story with a moral: 'Somewhere there is a woman married to him and I bet she tells him what to do and when to do it. Men who bully are usually henpecked.' - CAROL PERKINS
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By Carol Perkin

Sometimes when I am minding my own business and not bothering anyone, a person will cross my path to test my patience and light my fuse. That happened to me a few weeks ago when I made a bathroom stop at a convenient store on Brooks Road outside of Louisville.

First, most of you know that we ladies sometimes have to make a mad dash to the bathroom. There is no waiting. Time is the enemy in situations like I was in this particular day.

Men were lined up at ladies' restroom

I rushed through the door toward the bathroom knowing where it was because this wasn't my first time to stop here, and noticed that a couple of men lined up waiting. I paid no attention to them and headed for the woman's bathroom when one of them said, "Someone is in there." I thought that strange but I waited beside the door.

One of the guys said, "The line is back here." What was this-grade school?

Not really understanding at first he said, "The men's is out of order. The line is back here."

He smirked.

By then I needed to do the bathroom dance but tried to control myself. A man came out of the ladies' room and I said to the guy a the front of the line, "You wouldn't have mercy on a lady would you?"

It was a deperate situation

I was desperate.

He made some remark about a river in the hall if he didn't go, so he brushed right by me. I understood because I was in the same predicament.

Then the next guy needed to jab me a little so he said, "All you women wanted your equal rights. Now you have them." He was about six four and three hundred pounds and young enough to be my son. His face was beet red like someone had slapped him. (I couldn't reach that high but I dreamed of how it might have felt.)

I said nothing. My silence must have triggered something because he said, "You can go in front of me." Mellow and purring in embarrassment.

Giving him a quick glare I said, "I'll just go somewhere else." That somewhere else required getting back into the car and driving to the nearest fast food place. Not a pretty picture.

As for women's rights in the bathroom department, can't complain too much

As for women's rights in the bathroom department, I can't complain too much. I have been desperate enough to use the men's bathroom when the line was long for the women's.

Later I thought about the man. Somewhere there is a woman married to him and I bet she tells him what to do and when to do it. Men who bully are usually henpecked.

Someday he may stop for his aging mother to use the bathroom but the men's bathroom is out of order and two grown men won't let her in front of them. I wonder what he would think of equal rights then?

A gentleman is still a gentleman, and a lady is a lady

No matter how society changes, a gentleman is still a gentleman and a lady a lady.

I didn't meet a gentleman that day.- Carol Perkins
Carol Perkins the writer of this popular CM Column, is an author, owner and operator of Main Street Screenprinting, 601 S. Main Street, Edmonton, KY, Phones 270-432-3152 and 270-670-4913 and is co-host of Susan (Susan Shirley Chambers) & Carol (Carol Sullivan Perkins) on 99.1 The Hoss, regularly live at 10amCT, each Tuesday. Watch CM Events for topics/guests on the show.

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